The End

The reason I chose this blog was because, aging death and dying is something everyone will eventually have to experience in some form in their lives. It is something very interesting to me as well. We all know that eventually the end of our life will come. I hope tha this blog even though hardly anyone followed it helped people realize that when you die depending on what your religious view is whether you believe in life after death or not. I want people to understand that death does not have to be scary. Its going to happen to all of us eventually. Some people take that to heart and think if that is the case then why even worry about what we do here on this life and end up doing bad things. But want people to understand is all we have is the time right now. There is no future and we cant change the past. So live your life the best you can be happy do what you want to do so not only you but also your familiy and friends can enjoy that same way of life. Dont waste this precious time we have here. You can not take anything with you once you die. So be happy and make good memories with the people you care about. That means alot more to people than a new boat or lots of money. So I hople that I was able to help people better understand that and maybe change their negative idea on death.

Forgetting something?

Aging is something that can be very controversial. After a certain age people dont like having the a candle for every year on their cake. But as a kid you want as much as the cake can hold so you can blow more candles out. Some people buy bigger cakes to make a joke for and older person so it can fit a candle for each year. Once my mom did that for my grandma and she didnt think it was that funny, but for I thought that was the coolest thing in the world and I could wait until I turned as old as my grandma so I could have a giant cake and a ton of candles. But now that i am older I understand why people especially women hate getting older. For male its seems to come out more as a joke for being old. But women still get offended if you think they look older than what they really are. But as a child you cant wait to get older so you can get the things that older people get. But once you get that age everyone forgets about how bad you wanted to be that old when you are younger. With age you become to break down you cant do the same things that you could do before in some cases. But its fuuny to see how much peoples outlooks on things tend to change form when you were little. But occasionally you find and older person that still hasnt lost that outlook, and tend to be more fun loving rather than bitter for being old and those are the coolest elderly people I know. I want to be that kind of old person becaues they say you finish raising your kids you get to play with your grandkids. Having that same outlook on things when your old will allow you to have a lot more memories and relationships for you and your grandkids. Who doesn't want that?

What is death to a child?

When I was eight years old my grandpa passed away. He had cancer and was slowly getting worse, it was good for us cause it was not a sudden death which is harder to explain to a child. I was old enough to understand the concept. But at that time I had also had a little brother that was four years old and he was not able to see very much of my grandpa while he was healthy. And really didnt understand what death really was so he wasnt able to cherish what little time my grandpa had before he passed away. I feel that this has positive and negative effects. Postive because my little brother really didnt miss him too much after my grandpa had passed away. So when he was old enough to better understand death he had already accepted the fact that my grandpa was dead. It is negative because he wasnt able to have as many good memories with my grandpa as we did. In reality one can even ask that if a child can even understand what death means. But the worst thing you can do is lie to the child by telling them that the deceased person is gone for awhile or that they went somewhere else. You should at least explain to them that you wont be able to see that person anymore. So that when they do understand what death is they wont feel lied too.

Death is Bad for your Health

Thinking back to the death of my cousin. I saw that during that time of my life I realized that mourning the death of my cousin took a toll on my personal health. I wasnt sleeping as much ans i had a loss of appetite. That is all I was really thinking about. Granted it was just my cousin. It was hard to swallow that he had actually passed away. But thinking if it were one of my parents or maybe a sibling. Things could have been a lot worse. Knowing that death is hard to cope with at times. One thing that you should always strive to do is make yourself as heathly and happy as possible. Not to let things like death make your own personal health worse. That is were family and friends can become a great help in dealing with it.

See you later?

Its interesting to ask peoples veiws on what they believe about the death of a loved ones. Many believe that there is life after death and you will be with your family or friends after this life here on earth. Others believe that this life here in earth is it. So you live your life and do what you want because it wont matter after you die. Other believe that you will reappear as something or someone else in a different life. When I ask people about this it brings up many questions, mainly just to better understand their understanding on the subject because if you try to argue your point you will end up in a personal opinion stalemate. It would be interesting to see the difference between a person that believes in life after death, and person that doesnt when it come to someone that died. Obviously its gonig to be hard for both people, but will the "life after death" person be able to accept the loss quicker and move on know that he or she will see them as soon as they die? Or would the "no life after death" person just automatically accept the death and move on? would it take the "no life after death" person longer to move on or not?
I believe that you can't decide where you stand on this subject until you experience the death of a loved one. It tends to bring out the true beliefs of people. But what are your thoughts on the subject? what do you believe and why? Any comment is appreciated.

Dying

We have all heard stories of people that were diagnosed with a terminal illness and instead of hiding away and just waiting to die. They start to live life to its fullest. They dont waste time. They want to spend as much time as possible with friends and families. You hear of the stories where they do all the things that they've always wanted to in theirs lives. Its too bad that in most cases it takes something like that to make people see how precious life really is. For me i have learned this lesson from the death of my cousin. I realized that how preciouse life is and at time I know I just let life go by. But if you thnk about it we are all dying. We are all aging, we are gettting older ever second. So live the life that you have left. Enjoy it. Cause if you start to truly enjoy life you will see that the people around you will also start to enjoy life. It's a contagious disease that needs to spread like the blubonic plague. I truly believe that you will only have a bad day if you want to. Start looking for the good in every situation and be optomistic, and look to see how everyone else reacts to the new you. Because today could be your last, so live it like it is.

Death

Death is always something negative. It is the end of life, everything stops. I dont want to get into a disscusion whether there is life after death or not. That really depends on your own beliefs. But for me i would like to talk about what death now means to me.
About six years ago my cousin spent the whole summer living with us while working. After the summer he was heading back home when he was killed in a car accident. This was the first time anyone really close to me had suddenly died. I had had other relatives pass away before but they had been sick and we were able to prepare ourselves for their passing. But this time it hit home he was a few years older than I was but we were really close and suddenly he was gone. It got to the point where i couldnt believe it. I was thinking that it was a dream and when i woke up he would be there. But as the years went by I was able to accept it and was able to move on. I realize now that his death helped me realize the value of life. Not to take advantage of it, my cousin realized that and lived his life like that. Sure there are somethings that you wont be able to experience. I learned that life is fragile and that we should never put things off in our lives that could be made into great memories. Even though I miss my cousin I am greatful for the lesson so painfully learned. To never let life go by without fully enjoying it.

Aging

Aging is a funny thing. After every birthday it seems that someone always asks. "So do you feel older?" It seems that you never do. Its not like overnight you suddenly gain the responsibilities that come with growing up and become an adult. But recently I turned 23 and at the time I felt the same. But after I remembered that when I was younger thinking that 23 is getting up there. I know that according to society you still are pretty young. But its funny to think back to my other birthdays like turning 21. Everyone is excited to turn 21 even if you drink or not, just knowing you can is exciting. And turning 22 is not a big deal I guess you realize that you have been able to do what all the adults can do for only one year and its not a big deal but for some strange reason 23 is different. You feel older and you look around and you see your friends settleing down, getting married, and starting their families. But I just think that it is interesting that after one day, in my situation, I can actually answer the question Do you feel any older? with a yes I really do feel a little older. (Thoughts and comments are always appreciated)

Aging, Death & Dying

Think back to when you were a child straining so hard to reach your hand into the cookie jar, or trying to get something off a shelf or a table and wishing you were taller like your parents or your older siblings, so you wouldn't have to rely on someone or something to help you do basic day-to-day tasks. I can remember many times looking forward to growing up and doing the things grown up people could do. You can also see that most young teenage girls wanting to look older than they really are to attract or fool older guys. But once you hit a certain age you start to regret your young childhood wishes of wanting to grow up faster. The reason being is, a lot of people attach negative ideas to aging mainly because of the final consequence. Its something that some cultures embrace and others fear. I have realized that not many people enjoy talking about death because of fear alone, or they do not want to jinx themselves. We also have heard or experienced sad stories of dying but I feel that these things aren't necessarily bad things beacause i feel you get to live, learn, and most important laugh. Granted we always miss our loved one that pass away, but these things can also be great things for people; it can bring families closer together, it can help an individual spiritually or religiously, and can help people to really see life in a different perspective and teach them how to really live. The phrase "you only live once" has really helped me enjoy life better and also become a better and more enjoyable person.
Your thoughts and comments would really help and would be appreciated.